Bondage, Breathwork & Sensual Touch

I was scrolling recently on Instagram and saw a post from Burning Man highlighting an offering for bondage and breathwork. I had not considered the literal combination, but according to the post the available slots filled up quickly, and the feedback was positive.

Although my Tantra Touch and sacred intimacy sessions with clients has incorporated both elements, I had not considered them as a packaged offering.

So, I decided to do a little research with an additional question, what if you added sensual touch with a focus on gay men?

The outcome: below you will find three general benefits for the combined experience of bondage, breathwork, and sensual touch for gay men.

However, I wanted to add some of my own practice experience for additional context and steamy content for your pleasure and personal practice.

1. Enhanced Intimacy and Trust: Engaging in these practices can foster deep emotional connections, trust, and vulnerability between partners, strengthening their bond.

I have personally witnessed complete strangers surrender in front of me as they engaged in breathwork and sensual touch. Allowing themselves to become more vulnerable as I held them and disrobed them with consent and sensuality. Each breath and each layer drawing them in from the outside, deeper into their body and sensual self.

After some time, I would slowly shift them to the massage table introducing shifting degrees of sensual and erotic touch and energy. I could see them drop into their nude bodies trusting in the experience unfolding around and within them. Following my command for breath, awareness and surrender while the sensual sounds of music filled the room. Each touch, caress, and motion I work to gain their trust, inspired by their physical reaction and arousal.

More times than not, I ask and encourage my clients to wear a blindfold to allow them to minimize the distraction of sight. Often this is the first time they have been blindfolded so I am consistently retaining a hand on them to assist with a sense of safety, aiding in their ability to ground into their bodies.

With tantra massage there is a focus on the four elements and related style of touch or massage. Earth touch being firm grip and force on the body, shifting from chest to arms, legs to feet. Water is a more liquid touch, often involving massage oil and rhythmic movements. Fire touch helps to create those peak moments and sexual stimulation. A perfect time to incorporate some lite or heavy bandage to focus sensation and pleasure. Lastly and often after a release some lite air touch or fingertips on the skin, exploring the entire body from lips to fingertips to toes.

2. Stress Relief and Relaxation: Breathwork and sensual touch can promote relaxation, reduce stress, and help improve mental well-being by engaging with the parasympathetic nervous system (heart, lungs, digestive system, and sexual organs).

Too often we are told to practice meditation and mindfulness with little to no experience. Too often, ending brief attempts with frustration and miniscule benefits.

My personal breathwork practice and work with clients has provided me with an active method to experience and witness others in a meditative state.

Various forms of breathwork over a brief period, from 5 to 15 minutes, can be enough to increase oxygen (prana-life force), reduce carbon dioxide in the body, and help release stored tension and energy.

The combination of breath, music, smells, lighting, movement, guided meditation, touch, and stimulation creates an opportunity to surrender, ground, let go, experience the moment, and drop into the immense amount of pleasure the body can receive and experience.

It is during these extended moments that I engage the imagination to adventure beyond the limits of the body and the room. Invoking sacred journeys and connections with Pachamama (earth) and father universe, one’s higher self and spirit guides. These connections often tie back to the original intention set by the participant. Seeking out their higher-self or inner child for direction, insight, and impactful downloads.

Feeling empowered, grounded and connected, the outside world and endless list of demands and to-dos slip away, and pleasure begins to take center stage. Breathe, release, engage your throat chakra and give voice to every cell of your body.

3. Self-Exploration and Sensory Awareness: These practices encourage greater self-awareness, body positivity, and exploration of desires, leading to improved self-acceptance and sexual confidence.

We do not often communicate our boundaries, desires, and health practices at the time of engaging with a sexual partner. This can limit our sexual experience, lead to undesired outcomes, and increase anxiety about exposure to sexually transmitted infections.

Each of my Tantra Touch and intimacy practice sessions starts with a structured discussion that allows for an opportunity to share on these topics helping to create greater self-confidence and shared awareness.

The combination of all these elements, practices and shared openness leads to an environment in support of exploration, increased sensitivity, and appreciation of what our bodies are capable of experiencing.

These sessions are a perfect opportunity to welcome new experiences, challenge limitations with consent and introduce new sensations. The intentional combination of bondage, breathwork and sensual touch is an invitation to surrender, ground and release.

Every session takes on a life of its own. I never know when we begin, where we will end. I am profoundly grateful for the trust of my clients and their willingness to embrace the experience.

After a 60-, 90- or 120-minute session the peace and tranquility in the room is palatable. Butterflies circling and landing on the beautiful naked soul, grounded and at peace on the table under a lite sheet to assist with grounding and integration.

Whether your pleasure practice is solo, partnered, group or part of your regular self-care. Consider including breathwork, bondage and sensual touch for an enhanced intimate and erotic experience. Allow me to guide you or connect with someone you trust. Your body is waiting, are you ready?

For your own pleasure practice, I have noted some steps you can take to create your own tantra, personal pleasure practice or to engage with another for some steamy, sensual, full body pleasure.

Your practice: start with setting the stage. Set aside some time, pick a space, create a vibe, and think about what you want your personal or shared experience to entail.

Do you need a moment of surrender and passion? Are you feeling dominant and particularly kinky?

Incorporate mood lighting and music, essential oils, and toys (ropes, ice cubes, blindfold, silk, nipple claps, massage oil candles, get creative).

Having set the stage, start with some grounding breathwork and music to help you drop out of your head and into your body. An effective practice includes belly breaths, taking deep breaths through your nose, filling up your belly, and releasing out of your mouth through pursed lips. You can count to four on the inhale and six on the exhale to help with focus. Do this for 3-5 minutes, then hold for 30-60 seconds at the top or after the exhale. Then repeat for 2-3 cycles.

You can also increase the speed and focus of your breath. Inhale through your nose expanding your chest, exhaling fully through your mouth. Or take short, quick (fire) breaths in and out of your nose for 60 to 90 seconds. Making sure to take breaks, sitting, or lying down or doing so in unison with your partner. Added benefit with eye gazing, interlocking lower body and legs and being nude.

You can also use this time to concentrate your breath and energy in different parts of your body from your belly, heart, throat to the soles of your feet, sit bones, top of your head and most importantly your root chakra at the base of your spine. Activating your sexual, Kundalini energy and getting the juices flowing.

Tantra Touch is about conducting sensation with intuition and allowing your body to be the instrument. Giving a well needed break to your conscious mind and ego. Allow your sensual, erotic, and animalistic self to lead the way. If it helps, wear blindfolds, including oils and ice for sensual touch and sensation play. Do not be shy, include touch and massage of your nipples, lips, cock, balls, and hole. Either laying down, tied up or cuddling with your partner.

Build the energy and then take a step back to breath, move the energy around the body with lite touch and breath. Then stir the pot allowing the vibe of the room and music to stimulate and accentuate the feeling.

When it is time we welcome the release with your entire body. Breath into your orgasm and allow your throat to expand with moans and groans of pleasure. Let the universe know your orgasm is profound, magical, and primal. Burst with the spark of life that transcends time, galaxies, and gravity.

But do not stop there. Allow yourself to remain in the moment. Resist the old training that forced us to clean up and shy away from our body’s potential. Allow your drip, your cum to breathe, to taste the air you breath. Lay still, relax and release.

The angles and butterflies are on their way. Resist the temptation to check back in with your ego and conscious mind. Drift away into a timeless experience of meditation brought on by the full body experience of pleasure.

These moments, these experiences are equally as important as the countless other moments that take up so much of our time. I am of the opinion that our new opportunity in this age of Aquarius is to spend more time experiencing the pleasures of our body solo and with others. Just maybe, with more practice, more awareness, and more intention the peace and joy we all seek will be less illusive and more palatable in the world around us.

Chad Putman, XoXo

Ayahuasca Experience

There is a part of me that already wants to release and let go of the experience. I was high for sure. It was very intense. I started with a 1/4 shot glass dose. I rested in the bed and under the blanket they provide. The feeling was almost like a roller coaster with visuals. Surrender was paramonte for me.

Before i took the shot i held it in my hand and reiterated my intention, my desire to know more and become a better healer. I also spoke in my mind my gratitude for grandmother Ayahuasca, pachamana, and for the Inca culture and the people for sharing their traditions and medication with me.

I also thought about all the people I didn't know and faces i didnt see that made my trip to Peru and this center possible.

Without a doubt i believe my humbleness, gratitude and respect for the people and the medicine throughout the night made my trip, journey and experience a very positive one.

The shortest way to explain the experience beside the warm body feeling, the visual of being part of a deep interwoven tapestry was the conversation with pachumama and responses. In her own quiet, soft and firm way she showed me what i came for. The answers to the questions about my early sexual experiences. The experience i had as a young boy that had been erased from my memory and only existed in my body. Specific names and people and places where re-experienced with intense light and preasure. And as each experience came i was able to hold the space and share with that memory and experience. I am hear to heal. I am hear to release this, to let go and forgive each and every name and face that came to me.

Grandmother was very kind to me in allowing me to explore and ask for forgieveness from others I had harmed through sex and actions as well. I was able to see my husband and the angel he has been in my life. I was not able to recieve a message to support my sister in her pain and suffering, because that is her work and her journey.

Grandmother also allowed me to hold onto her medicine throughout the night. I was told we would likely perge (vomit) within the first hour or struggle with diarrhea. But grandmother was so kind to me. I asked her to keep me solid so i could remain in the bed and not have to leave the sacred space to use the toilet. This was pretty amazing considering I had struggled with explosive number two, for some time now, even before the trip. She listened and granted me my wish so warmly and sincerely it wasn't until the following moring that i made it to the toilet and released a number 2 that was organized, soft and resembled a snake or dragan i released from my body.

There was no vomiting either. Perhaps remaining still and drinking very little water through the night was a wise move.

I also believe my communication with my body and grandmother Ayahuasca was benefitial. At times if i felt a pain or discomfort in my body i sent light and love there through breath and intention.

So much of the night was shifting from one scene, experience to another based on my ability and willingness to sit with it, experience it, receive the massage, engage with the work and release.

Breathwork and meditation proved to me a powerful tool.

There were certainly times after i took the 2nd dose (a 2nd quarter dose) that i became anxious and very concerned that i had done to much that i jumped on the adult ride without the seatbelt or the ability to navigate. But again this was where my breath, meditation and montras played a huge role to allow me to experience the intense sensations of the 2nd dose without loosing control and falling into fear, claiming a desire to escape and end it.

I truly never experienced anything like this in my life and as a person that has used drugs and struggles with addiction i believe its important for me to share that I was high. After the 2nd dose i keep saying to myself, before the journey and experience really kicked in that I didn't want this to be about getting high, i didnt want this to be about getting high. But i was, without a doubt. Grandmother was pretty clear that this journey was not going to cure my addiction, but rather take me to a place to show me the experiences that contributed to my drug use and desire to escape, at times in my life with drugs and sex.

I was able to see that once i started to take my power back in the earlier sexual experiences as a young boy and adolescent that i gained control and the others lost interest. I was able to see the sexual abuse as abuse of my gay spirit a knowing that i was gay before i was old enough to know what that was. I was able to see they hated that fem part of me and abused me in-part because of it. I was also able to see their tenderness and softness and warmth and touch and explosive organisms as human, as complicated and powerful for them as well. To be held and touched by them. To be a body for them to manipulate and penetrate and receive pleasure. I was there to recieve, release and forgive.

Mother Ayahuasca is a powerful tool and in my one experience with her in the sacred valley in Peru she showed me what i was not able to see. She blessed me with a safe, comfortable, warm and pleasant, intense experience. She guided me through the journey with love, compassion and understanding and in retruen i respected her gifts, her connection to my body and spirit. To the people, culture and customs that made this whole experience possibe including the center and the Ayahuasca healers and shaman that blessed me and clensed me before and during the ceremony with their kindness and songs and wisdom.

I didnt travel this path alone and my guides here at the center, during the ceremony carried me with their music, their words and their knowledge and intuition.

At times there would be silence or only the sounds of others perging or crying or snoring. The candle in the middle was the reminder of the center, of the sacred space in which we experienced Ayahuasca. But all of the magic happended behind my closed eyes. The work was internal and the experience was a gift to myself, a gift from another culture and people to me. In return i have the nessesary obligation and responsibility to engage in reciprocity. To freely give back what had been given to me. Not just to take but to give. Which in part is why i went on the field trip the following morning to volunteer at an orphanage in Cusco, to give thanks, to give back even in the small way that i did.

Which reminds me of the materials and jestures i offered with my hands and jewels i had with me during the ceremony. Before we started we were provided an hour long meditation with breathwork and prayer and yoga and stillness with a young Equadorian woman. She shared her guidace and message of love, oneness, forgiveness, gentleness and reciprocity. Not just as a jesture but as a fundimental part of the Peruvian culture. And in the meditation and during the ceremony, at times i held one hand palm up and the other down. Showing an openness to give and receive. I also had my father universe icon around my neck aquired from a Peruvian artist i met on the street in Pisac. He had woven the necklace holding the icon with shared care, love and intention. In a blue handkerchief i held my handcrafted mala necklace and grounding stone with striped elements and colors. In my pocket a moon stone reminding me of the future.

This medicine was offered to me a 2nd night, which is very common in most places. I'm told its an opportunity to go deeper and that no two ceremonies would be the same.

But as the morning passed and we traveled back from the orphanage i listened to my body and my feelings. I had received the medicine, the answers and was able to do the work of release and forgiveness during the first ceremony and as i thought about a second ceremony i felt sick and scared and low vibration. But then when i embraced No, i do not need a 2nd ceremony, not today not now, my vibration rose and my gratitude and mood improved. I had received and at this time i didnt not need anything further from this medicine and opportunity.

Rather i was able to spend the next 24 hrs resting and eating and connecting with others. I slept for 10 plus hours and grounded in my body in order to prepare for more travel in the days ahead and a San Pedro ceremony planned for two days after. I was also able to step back and recall the life and responsibilities i had to return home to the following week. That i wanted to be rested, connected and centered as i took the whole of this Peruvian experience in my heart back to my home, my work, my play and my contribution to others and community.

Don't do it if you are not ready, if it is not calling you. Ayahuasca is a sacred medicine, protected and offered by a people and a culture with deep ties to pachamama and spirit. It's not a toy, a drug or a trip to take lightly. That would only be disrespecting the people the cultue and the medicine.

Ayahuasca is a grandmother, a tool to heal, to relase to learn to love and to let go. Respect her and she will respect you in return.

Spiritual Journey, Medicine & Peru

As I write this post, I sit in a small hillside hotel in Cusco, Peru at the start of a two week spiritual journey. I'm 50 now and I see the world differently. My view no longer cooped by nations, politics and people, but rather as a magnificent gem begging to be discovered. Perhaps this is my mid-life hero's journey as I ride out my Chiron return.

My life, pretty much unrecognizable from three years ago. No longer in upstate New York, having parted ways from generations of lineage. No longer wearing a wedding ring, sleeping in separate rooms. No longer tied to my job, career or profession as my identity. No longer stuck in old belief patterns and the security of my comfort zone.

I've stepped out, without a doubt and Peru is about the journey and the medicine. As a person who has struggled with addiction, codependency and thinking small. The matrix above was confinement, predictable and lacked a future. This mid-life opportunity is about transformation and leaning into the unknown.

In just a few days a group of 10, gay and/or queer identified men will head out on a four day trek to Machu Picchu and the sacred value. We will be challenged physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Largely a group of strangers brought together by Ofer for this RainbowMen's Retreat.

Without a doubt, a draw for many of us is the opportunity to participate in a two day Ayahuasca ceremony. Having largely received the spiritually call and intuitive desire in a profoundly transitional point in our lives. We will all be first timers, with the exception of Ofer.

I've made the decision to take this journey in part to heal as well as to challenge myself. I've only begun to scratch the surface of what I am capable of manifesting and creating. I have big ass plans for the future. Expanding in ways I had never dreamed of until now. Organizing and planning tantra retreats in other countries. Focusing my personal coaching services on intimacy and nurturing my Sacred Intimate practice. Building my business and utilizing multiple sources of income to redesign my day to day life. Setting the intention to leave my secure full-time position to become a kick-ass healer in this new age of Aquarius in the next six months.

I have the audacity to dream now, to imagine bigger and the abilityto release the things that no longer serve me and keep me small. That means making big changes to the people, places and things I devote my time. My future is about expansion and this sacred journey in Peru, the trek to Machu Picchu and this sacred medicine experience are all part of the fuel that will undoubtedly propel my next chapter.

This journey and these changes didn't come about on a whim or a fluke, but rather by the undeniable pain and suffering of a life craving to be lived. Not an ordinary life, but an extraordinary one. One with no regrets. No longer tied to a country or religion. No longer comfortable within a culture of repression and detached from my body. No longer just serving the ego and the conscious mind, but rather a collective calling to model and challenge others like myself to be more.

I know I am capable of accomplishing anything, when I'm in the flow, aligned with the universe and serving a higher purpose. One that treasures life, time and this incredible planet we call home. I'm jazzed.

How about you? Are your days or nights filled with an emptiness, a craving for more, an inner knowing? You're not alone... Looking for an opportunity, the right moment? It's now, it's scary and it's all you really have. Excuses and postponing keep you stagnant. Reaching, saying yes and trusting your inner guidance is liberating. No one can do it for you. You must take the first step.

If you are looking for a hand in the darkness, reach out. Connect and let's plan your next great chapter starting with a free Discovery Session. Text me 518-225-0957 or email Chadputman1@gmail.com today.

Trust me, you won't regret it. Rather the opposite is true. We regret what we never dared to do. #todayisyourday #present